Zhen Huan @ YChen
有时候我想,我真的需要那么卑微吗?

“為甚麼他可以做這樣的事、為甚麼她可以毫不在乎、是不是一直以來只是自己的依賴過重了......
等到發現的時候,你不知道從什麼時候起一直一直都在這樣想。這個時候,你知道你不能再思考更深--既然無論怎麼考慮都是負面情緒。所以,是遠行的時候了。”

薄膜

1.为什么你可以说出这样的话,而你从来就没有觉得不妥,你反而引以自豪。

其实我可以在你面前一个样在你身后一个样,说一句:其实我没什么喜欢他这个人。
或者在跟朋友聊天的时候狠狠数你一笔,可惜我都没有。
哪怕有人问我说你是个怎样的人,我恐怕还会说:不错,蛮好相处的。
到头来自己就在狠与不恨,生气还是不生气,喜欢还是不喜欢,真还是假,沉沦。

不过,我倒是有一点羡慕那种以为自己中心的人,
因为,他们的信心可以抵挡外面所有不好的传言,自得其乐,为自己鼓掌。
假如,我能学到50%的话,那样我就可以变得比较理所当然,做任何事情不用顾虑太多,敢敢死,反正我为我自己觉得自豪。
不过,虽然一路混多了那些人,我还是学不会。

2.为什么你可以毫不在乎?

最近我一直有一份对于认同感的迷思。
我反问自己,为什么要不断去追求所谓的认同和肯定?
也许是,我开始怀疑,对方跟自己。
所以,我会开始希望说跟对方有更多的交流,好让可以证明一段关系是稳定的。
可是,有些人终是有意无意流露出那种:我没兴趣知道。
对我而言,好伤。

于是我这样告诉自己,任何关系是建立在信任上面,所以只要真诚待人,肯去接受跟相信,那么事情也就没那么严重了。
只不过,信任往往是孤独的。
因为你永远奢求,也永远不会得到别人的正面回应。

我知道这是我自己的问题,因为我不可能要求别人跟我有一样的想法,跟态度。
虽然这在某程度上给了自己一些安慰,不过还是私心的会想说:
有时候,说一句真心的话,给一个肯定,来消除我的不安,有那么难?

我很清楚,一切一切都是因为自己依赖心太重。
只不过,在某些时候,还是会很沮丧。

人,是为自己而活。
讲到,就要做到。
Zhen Huan @ YChen
We know that simplicity is the best lifestyle. Some people say, “Make it simple, I want less trouble." In actual fact, there is no way for us to live a simple lifestyle, because this world is getting more complicated each day. We are exhausted, not because we have aged or we have to shoulder more responsibilities; it is because we are bombarded with new rules and regulations, information and technology. Therefore in this age of rapid change, creativity is more important than knowledge. At times, being logical may not be good enough.

Apparently, when selecting potential candidates, Bill Gates of Microsoft would not pay much attention to qualification, working experience and intelligence. The person who is intelligent but not good at working is totally impractical; the one who is good at working but has no intelligence is no good either. Therefore, he set question like “how would you move Mt.Fuji” to test the candidates’ creativity. What he wants are people who can think out of the box and find a wholesome solution. He believes that people who can stretch their imagination can make better decision.
This is a true story that I heard: An artist went to Beijing with his paintings. When he moved into the house he was going to stay, he discovered that the house was in a bad shape with spider webs all over the place, and worst of all, it was dim and stuffy as there was no window. Yet, he did not walk out. Instead, he laughed and took out a piece of paper on which he drew a window and pasted it on the wall. His painting was so good that the window looked real. It made one feel that ‘sunlight’ is shining through the ‘window’, bringing warmth into the room. An otherwise dull room suddenly turned alive. This artist later became famous.

When you feel trapped within ‘four walls’, create a ‘window’ in your heart and let the ‘sunshine’ in. The sunshine in the window symbolize positive attitude. If you have faith in the goodness, kindness and the endless available possibilities, then that will be what your life will consist of.

The World of Tzu Chi by T.L.Khim on Jan 2010
secondary source:tommy's blog.


心中的那扇窗口……hmm

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